Can Sex Comics stop the rise in child pregnancy? A Comic book for toddlers comes out in the UK

February 20, 2009

I have been hanging on to this story for a little while and I thought today was the day to spring it on the readers.  We have had a crazy week, with the NY Post story and the Bristol Palin revelations about the folly of abstinence, I have had a lot to write about.

One of the stories that seem to be in the air the babies having babies.  I know when the weather is cold, you want to snuggle up with someone, but maybe we need to start pushing for people to wear the Snuggie!

I know that it looks like a cult, but we are really warm!

I know that it looks like a cult, but we are really warm!

The other alternative, which is sleeping with other people in attempts to stay warm, just isn’t working…or it is working, and maybe it’s working too well.  whatever the case, the children are finding out about the pleasures of sex, and they are engaging in it.

Lois Griffin: We gotta get those kids out of the house once in a while. I mean, shouldn’t they be dating?
Peter Griffin: Ah, that doesn’t solve the problem, Lois. If they start dating, I mean, their-their rooms are right next to each other. They’ll start having sex, we’ll never get them out of the house, and–
Lois Griffin: No-no-no, you idiot, I’m talking about them dating other people.

While Peter is rather dimwitted, he understands the basic problem with sex.  Once you have it, you want to continue to have it more.  While this is not a case about incest, the problems that we have talked about (Alfie and Chantelle, Bristol and Levi, and the many others out there, like Brittney’s sister Jamie) all stem around sex. We tend to not talk to our children about it, and hope that they get good information about it from their friends.  my mother was proactive and sat us down and talked about it in a no nonsense, factual way.  She covered sex and pregnancy in about five minutes. All she really needed to say was

1) Sex is something that is shared between two adult people that care about each other.

Lois Griffin: I love you, honey.
Peter Griffin: And I’ve grown fond of you, Lois.

2) Sex can lead to a bunch of nasty diseases (she showed pictures and I will spare you the horrors) so if you think that you are ready that you should use a condom, since that can also prevent pregnancy

3) A condom is not 100 percent solvency against disease or pregnancy so you should know what you are playing for

4) She is too young to become a grandmother, so you shouldn’t have sexual relations until you really care about someone.  If you do think that you are ready, you are probably not….

Little did she know, after that conversation, I went to have sex with this red head girl named Laurie that was one of the easier targets in the neighborhood.  She was friends with the sister of my best friend Shawn.  I had smashed it before and it made me feel great, because I was in the tenth grade and she was a senior at my high school.  What the conversation with my Mom really locked in was the fact that I needed to practice safe sex.  I was going to have it either way, it was just one way could prevent some long term consequences.

The picture at the top of the story is a comic book that is made for teens and preteens about the dangers of sex and dispels some common misconceptions


Published: 19 Sep 2008

A COMIC book about sex has been launched for SIX year-olds this week.

The pamphlet, created by sexual health charity the FPA, could be shown to all school kids unless parents opt out.

Let’s Grow with Nisha and Joe contains cartoon-style pictures of a naked boy and girl to teach children about different parts of the body.

It has been slammed by critics who say it is inappropriate and will do nothing to tackle the UK’s rising teenage pregnancy rate, the highest in Europe.

But as experts battle it out over how best to help children get to grips with the birds and the bees, British teens are still getting fact and fiction mixed up when it comes to sex.

A quarter of 11-14 year-olds in a poll of 500 teens revealed they were confused, worried and scared about sex.

And half didn’t trust the information they got from their mates, found The Everyday Conversations Every Day report, commissioned by the Department of Children, Schools and Families Teenage Pregnancy Strategy.

And that’s not surprising when you see the list (below) of most popular myths (all untrue) being thrown about the playground:

You can’t get pregnant the first time you have sex

If you love someone you must have sex with them, otherwise it’s not love

You can tell a person has an STD just by looking at them

You can’t get pregnant if you’re standing up during sex

You can’t pregnant during your period

If a boy pulls out during sex you can’t get pregnant

If you use a tampon you’re not a virgin.

Now,  I remember those myths spreading around my school and buying into some of them, like pulling out.  In fact, I used that line a few times. One thing that I still believe is that you can look at some people and just tell if they have the HIV, or something else.  OBVIOUSLY, this SHOULD NOT BE USED AS A STANDARD FOR SAFE SEX!  Remember, what we do is not the same as what you should do.  Today, I get tested and know who my partners are sleeping with.  That would be the fifth thing that I would add to my mothers warnings.

What is surprising is that 75 per cent of teens want to talk to their PARENTS about sex and growing up.

Mums and dads may cringe at the mere thought of having these conversations and worry it may even encourage early sex, but the opposite has been found to be true.

Research over last 30 years points to the fact that parents who talk to their young teens openly about sex help DELAY early sex and pregnancy.

Gill Frances, Chair of the Teenage Pregnancy Independent Advisory Group, says “700,000 children will have moved up to secondary school this September.

“They will be meeting new people and gaining more independence and they’ll be exposed to sex myths on the teenage grapevine.

“It’s essential that parents are ready to answer their child’s questions.”

Here are Gill’s tips for parents on how to talk to their children:

Share books and leaflets with sons and daughters.

Use TV shows, magazines and newspaper stories as a starting point for conversation. Talking about other people or characters can be easier.

Talk about boyfriends and girlfriends.

Find out what sex education their school provides – they may know more than you think.

Be up to date with your information and be familiar with the language kids are using. See speakeasy .

Don’t be afraid to say you don’t know, use this as an opportunity to find out together.

Talk to your teen about contraception, how it prevents pregnancy and how to protect against sexually transmitted infections.

Keep what they say confidential – trust is crucial.

If they say something shocking, stay calm and ask them further questions to gauge how much they actually know.

And make sure they know all the myths above are just that, complete fiction.

For more information on who to chat to your teen about sex visit parentline

Meg and Lois are peeping at Tom Brady taking a shower]
Meg Griffin: Mom, let me look!
Lois Griffin: Meg, stop shoving. You wouldn’t even know what to do with it.
Meg Griffin: He’s closer to my age, you cow!
Stewie Griffin: What the hell is this?
Lois Griffin: Oh, hi, Stewie. W-we were just leaving.
Stewie Griffin: [takes a look in the hole in the wall] I say, what the Devil is all the fuss about. I don’t get it, what’s in the…. Bing-bong! Hello!

This is important for both sexes.  Both sides play a role in making a baby, but only the woman has the burden of carrying it around for nine months.  So, have a talk with your children, before they learn what they need from the streets.

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